Women are almost constantly talking and writing about the time(s) they were raped, and the several hundred slightly less horrible things men do/say to them. I've seen a lot of those things, but not being one who hangs out in bars or parties where people are apt to get drunk or high, I don't see all that much of it.
But I know it happens because:
I have dated three different women who were battered women/rape crisis counselors.
For about a year my house in rural coastal WA was a safe house for battered women, all of whom were fleeing ultra-macho lumberjacks or fishermen.
I saw a housemate in college throw his girlfriend down the stairs. She was a nursing student. She was a nursing student because she had been raped, stabbed and left for dead by a gang of four men, and managed to crawl to a house for help. The house just happened to be the home of a nurse, who saved her life. The housemate's first job after college was as a security guard, a job he got despite all of his housemates contacting his employer with negative recommendations.
A long time friend and former co-worker was staying at my house while hers was being remodeled. My house was on the edge of the Inner City. I came home from work one day to find the door wide open and her purse sitting in plain sight. he had gone for a walk, met a guy, invited him back to the house, and was raped. She had just spent an hour in the shower. I phoned the woman I was then dating, who had a job as a rape counselor with the city mayor's office.
But I don't understand it. Not at all. I just can't wrap my head around the concept of a man treating a woman badly. It makes no sense to me.
About as close as I come is I am attracted to women, and make a judgment on first sight if she is "eye candy" or not. But I do this with men too. But I'm just as likely to start a conversation with someone I don't think of as eye candy. I have interesting and talented friends of all levels of attractiveness.